How to use pheremones in dating
:( Dear Psychology Today: Thank you for this Facebook link, probably aimed at women between the age of 30-45, but I think we both know how completely irritated my husband (or any man) would be if I asked him any single one of these questions.Now, I'm no psychologist, but as an experienced wife and nagger, I can tell you that every single item on this list would elicit the "yes dear, whatever you think" response, followed by the "I have to go to the bathroom" response, in as little as three minutes, and that within the hour, we'd probably be arguing at the top of our lungs. thanks anyway, and good luck with your facebook campaign! But sometimes in real life we want to slow the process down. The questions were developed as part of a scientific study intended to establish that intimacy can be developed quickly. I think you'd need to pick and choose among these questions and see how the conversation went. I believe that is best left to later in the relationship discussions.
Each of you should take a turn answering each question. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? I went into it with faith that it'd be a good thing and my spouse started scrolling on one question while I was talking (to see the next question).Or, try the sincere approach..."this is something that is important to me, can we spend a few minutes each night/week/month sharing our answers" Give him the opportunity to "pass" on questions that make him to uncomfortable.I don't know you or your husband, but I do know that there are NO men that have "no emotions", just many that that lack practice expressing them, for many societal and cultural reasons and both men and women tend to follow an unwritten, gender script, in their conversations that keep these patterns reoccurring. But it took us much longer than 45 minutes, which is why we only got halfway. However, he is very willing to push himself to open up. If we have a lull and I want to stir the pot, I'll start a discussion around it. Like one of the previous writers I just came across it and plan to print it. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose? I'm probably revealing a lot about my own insecurities through my reactions here :) Which in itself is interesting for me. We did get about halfway through the questions and it was very helpful. Each time I go on a date with my bf, I'm going to pick one and keep it in mind.
Then he got up to get something to eat while I was on the "life story" question and just yelled for me to keep talking because he was listening.